When your idea of fun revolves strongly around substances like alcohol or drugs, you are bound to believe that sobriety just isn’t the right move for you. But here’s the thing, you can have just as much fun (possibly even more!) without the substances if you learn to redefine what fun is. Here are a few steps to help you do so:
1. RECLAIM JOY
Deep down, many people believe that they just do not deserve to be happy. For some people, this translates into self-sabotage, seeking comfort in the arms of substances, or even workaholic lifestyles. It is crucial to let go of the notion that you do not deserve joy. Whether it is your past mistakes holding you back, low self-esteem, or trauma, you must reclaim your birthright – which is to be happy.
2. RE-IMAGINE A FUN MOMENT
Many people cannot imagine a fun moment with friends or family without the compulsory glass of wine or drugs in the peripheries of the scene. Any change begins with visualising it, and acting as if. Although you may find it harder to socialize, dance, or simply enjoy yourself at a party, this discomfort fades away after the initial few tries. It is just a matter of getting used to a new reality. It is natural for it to take some time! When you embrace sobriety, the idea of a rager till 3 am followed by a low day with a splitting headache will never seem like your idea of fun again!
3. RE-CONNECT WITH YOURSELF
Substances help people drown out the voices in their heads. But, the key thing to understand is that substances only allow you to run from your problems, not defeat them. When you are thinking of embracing sobriety, it is important to be able to connect with all aspects of yourself – good and bad. Only then can you understand yourself better and be able to define fun in a way that does not require substances. Sobriety without a connection with yourself is like slapping a Band-Aid on a bullet hole – it may stop the bleeding temporarily, but it is not a permanent solution.
At Mind Healers, we help you understand and accept who you are so that you can reclaim your joy, re-imagine fun without relying on altering your reality, and reconnect with yourself so that you can connect with others. Contact us today for personalised sessions!